Dating Today

Many of the traditional methods of dating are no longer of much use to either sex these days. Though some of even the oldest ideas are still considered romantic in our times, many are not practiced simply because they do not seem to fit in our modern world.

  The well known clichés that accompany a left over standard which may still apply to some, but is so absent in others can sometimes add more complication to dating, rather than making the process an easier one. Such ideas as women's secrets giving their sex an air of mystery or men always being the rougher, less refined half of the sexes, have all but dried up and blown away in the wind.

  In today's society one may find that the ideal woman or man changes from person to person and that to create a standard ideal for the masses is nearly impossible. No depiction in the media or social standard gives men or women an idea of what model they should follow in order to be considered attractive; while this release from obligatory self modeling may be helpful in some ways, many individuals feel lost without a standard to look to.

Along with the erased standards, many traditions of dating have also been scattered to the winds. Such niceties as holding a door or offering an arm may still be considered sweet by some, but may in fact bring out resentment in others. These ideas further apply to the growing idea that men are getting in touch with the softer and more complex emotions that they would previously have attempted to bottle up; men often find this confusing, especially when trying to figure out how sensitive a man should be in order to gain the interest of a woman.

Several years ago single men and women could count on meeting potential mates though work or mutual friends. But that was then and the dating environment has changed. Today, single men and women are busier than ever and they work longer hours, which means it's harder to meet Mr. or Ms. Right! But not to worry, the stigma of dating services and personal ads is basically prehistoric and there are plenty of options to help single people become couples. Today, online dating, speed dating, Lock N Key parties, "It's Just Lunch" and "Eight at Eight" are some of the most popular options to help singles navigate dating in a modern world. 

Let's face it we use the Internet for shopping, travel and work. Why not use the Internet for dating as well? Many online dating services provide potential matches based on religion, ethnic background, occupation and special interests.

Online dating is convenient, inexpensive and the only requirements are hope, luck and Internet connection! Online dating provides one fairly easy way to navigate a busy professional life and maintain a personal life. But be forewarned there is some work involved in identifying a perfect match online. Single hopefuls must peruse countless member profiles; make numerous cyber introductions and wait to see if interest is mutual. 

Meet Eligible Men - 11 ways and counting

Places to Meet Eligible Men become more and more scarce these days.  Heck, even eligible men as they are have become a rare species.

1. The bar

This may be one of the oldest ways to meet a man, but it still works. Free flowing beer makes it easier to approach your target! However, if ‘commitment’ is on your mind, then look elsewhere!

2. The market

Whether it’s the shopping mall or the supermarket these places are loaded up with good looking folks. Chances are you’ll find someone who lives in your neighbor and likes coffee the way you do. A bookstore is another place to meet someone with similar tastes – at least in literature!

3. Online

This is the latest method of meeting single men. There are several online dating sites where you can check out profiles and photographs. The best one I’ve heard of is www.LoveDiscovered.co.za, because they offer both free services and paid, as well as professional image consultants and physiologist advise. Although you’ll have to spend some money on membership its well worth it just on the advise you get. Online dating became a relatively safe method as you can get to know your date before you go out with him.

4. Church

Church is a good place to meet men who share the same faith and moral grounding. If you’re a single mom, this may be a good place to find serious men who are looking for a life partner rather than a night out on the town.

5. The water cooler

If you can get past the gossip, the office is a place where romance can be sparked. Being in such close proximity with colleagues can lead to an office romance. Finding someone of the same intellectual level may be easier at the workplace than at the bar!

6. Newspapers

Check out the newspapers for announcements regarding neighborhood picnics, square dances, tours and special events. These are great places to meet new people, especially single men! Go ahead strike up a conversation. You might end up meeting your spouse.

7. College …

If you’re taking some classes at the local college this could be an opportunity to meet eligible men There are seminars and short courses that you can participate in. Not only can you get an education but you can find that perfect someone perhaps sitting right next to you.

8. Friends

Get your friends to help if you’re serious about finding a man. Attend parties where there is a good mix of singles. Be friendly, outgoing and be seen! You can even throw a party yourself and tell friends to bring their friends along.

9. Gym

While you exercise your muscles you can exercise your heart as well. The gym is a great place to meet single men, specially the hot men! You’ll know in advance that they value their health and you know what to expect when thir expensive suit comes off, so that’s a good starting point!

10. Favorite diner or restaurant

Notice the guy who’s having dinner by himself at the far corner table? Well, what you waiting for? Get a waiter to introduce you or do it yourself. Either way, make a move.

11. Work

Either in your office or in the accounting on the 19th floor there must be that cute, nice, good-looking guy who makes your heart tick. Figure out where exactly he works, what’s his name, if he’s available, and let the flirting begin! Who knows, maybe the guy in the next cubicle is the one you were looking for all this time!

What does your Image say about you?

Image is the foundation of visual credibility, personal presence and non-verbal communications. Research has shown that when you project an image of confidence, you are more likely to succeed both professionally and socially.





Did you know that within 3 second of meeting you, your peers, co-workers, boss – everyone – have already determined 3 things about you:

1. Your socio-economic status
2. Your education level
3. Your desirability

Successful people believe their success is attributable to a pattern of mutually beneficial interpersonal relationships, as much as it is due to technical skills or business knowledge. Your communication and the image you present create the first impression - often the lasting impression - on the people you meet. Want a more professional image? How you present yourself is the first step in building that mutually beneficial network of contacts.

Studies by Dr. Albert Mehrabian at UCLA revealed that when we try to convey meaning through our communication with others, the majority of our message is communicated nonverbally and through voice and facial expression. Approximately seven percent of the message is communicated by words.
His studies revealed that up to 37% of a first impression is based upon the speaker's tone of voice. On the telephone, that number rises to 80% or higher, according to many communication consultants.

Improving your self-image, like improving any skill, takes time and practice. Developing good self-esteem involves encouraging a positive (but realistic) attitude toward yourself and the world around you and appreciating your worth, while at the same time behaving responsibly towards others. Self-esteem isn't self-absorption; it's self-respect.

By working from the inside out (focusing on changing your own way of thinking before changing the circumstances around you), you can build your self-esteem. The goal of this positive thinking is to give yourself a more positive self-concept, while seeing yourself honestly and accepting yourself, and removing the internal barriers that can keep you from doing your best. The consultants at Love Discovered will tailor make a session for you that ensure you get the maximum benefit in the least possible time. They are available on Skype so no need to travel to see them.