What to Wear on a First Date

After months of chatting to the love of your life in the LoveDiscovered.co.za’s chat rooms you have decided to take the next big step... Meeting in “real life”, for a date! Your slouchy t-shirt of Sponge Bob is best left for online meetings; you know when you’re the only one who has to look at it. You need to suit up! 

Clothing increases your appeal

Wear clothing that accentuates your best features. Bright colours tend to work for dark hair people while pastels and muted colours do wonders for those with fair hair. Play around with different clothing to see what works best. Worn correctly one can hide problem areas such as saddle bags.

Consider the occasion and venue
Ensure that you're familiar with the dress code. Double-check if it is a formal restaurant or a casual lounge atmosphere and dress accordingly. If you are uncertain you can always take along a jacket (for the men) or formal accessories (ladies) to jazz up your outfit. But don’t fret if you get it wrong, an inappropriate outfit can be a good icebreaker. The key is not to be self conscious and to own your look.

If all else fails....

 A little black dress is always a good outfit to fall back on. Dress your LBD up with heals or down with high-top Converse sneakers, you can’t go wrong. 

On the other side of the colour spectrum, a crisp white shirt works wonders on men. Wear the shirt with jeans to a movie or with slacks to a five-star restaurant.

Finding True Love

Regardless of our culture, our level of education or economic status, at the depth of all of us are the same desires- to love, to be loved, and to be happy.
Of course we could add other desires to this list, like money and wealth and fancy things, but when you drill into these things, the reason for wanting them is so that we can appear more desirable, and will hopefully be loved and accepted.

If love is something so fundamentally important to us, then why is it that we have so many issues and misunderstandings in the area of finding it? I think the answer is simple, that most of us have never been educated in this fundamental area of our development. Chances are, you didn’t grow up with parents who were relationship experts, and we certainly didn’t study relationships in our high school curriculums.

For most of us, it’s been an adventure in trial and error and learning through pain and heart-break. But is there an easier way?

I believe it is crucial to identify and clearly communicate our relationship expectations and personal timelines early on in the dating phase. So often, we get into relationships with silent expectations of a future event that is important to us, thinking that our partner will come around to it when the time is right, only to find out several years later that things will never work out the way we expected. Some common unspoken issues of this nature revolve around marriage, children, financial goals, and even which city you settle down in.

First, be clear with yourself on these types of issues. Understand what kind of commitment you are looking for in a relationship, how you feel about children and where you plan to live. There are no wrong answers, but be honest and specific about what you are looking for in the current stage of your life.

Next, tell yourself that on all of your first dates, you will be clear with people about your relationship expectations and timeline, if any. It can be a scary and awkward experience at first, but it will become less of a nerve racking experience over time. And just think of all the time and emotional energy you are saving by being open from the get-go, instead of setting silent expectations that can lead to disappointment.