Relationship Advise

Human nature tends to let down its guard and act its worst around those who we are most familiar with. How you really are is the way you act towards others that you know the best – which are typically those of your own home.





The following are some practical tips for couples:





1. Tell your spouse “I love you” each and every single day.

2. Always say please and thank you. (manners cost nothing)

3. Never demand anything one of another, but ask kindly with respect – like you would from anyone else out side the home.

4. Husbands, you don’t own your wife, so don’t act like it. Don’t be bossy and overbearing and order them around like a slave.

5. Wives don’t nag your husbands. If they have been too busy to get something done that is important to you, and you have already asked them a number of times, try asking them after you have done something nice for them. Or ask if there is anything you can do to help them get started on their project. You will find this goes over much better then telling them “I have been asking for two months now to fix the leaking tap. When are you ever going to get this done? It is so hard to get you to do anything around here!”

6. Husband, thank your wife for each meal, when laundry is done and for how well your clothes have been folded, and when the home is cleaned and what a clean house she keeps. Wives, when you husband fixes something around the home thank him, and when he brings home his check tell him what a good provider he is.

7. Each day ask the other if there is anything you can do for them.

8. You both need to be patient with each other’s weaknesses and faults. You should not make a practice of pointing out eachothers faults over and over. Remember that love will cover a multitude of faults. Deal with the other’s faults the way you want them to deal with yours.

9. Be always seeking what you can put into the marriage – not what you can get out of it.

10. Make a practice of trying to give into each other when there are differences. That way when you really feel strong about something, your spouse will not have such a hard time giving into you.

11. Never discuss each others past faults and mistakes in front of other people. While your spouse may laugh along with you and not say anything about it later, you may have hurt them deep down.

12. Don’t allow a disagreement to escalate into an argument and certainly not in public or in front of your children.

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What is Love?

What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind. Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true.   Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all.   A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said . Love all Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship.  The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But love is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy. In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.  Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars.   Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect.  Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
William Shakespeare.

Dating Today

Many of the traditional methods of dating are no longer of much use to either sex these days. Though some of even the oldest ideas are still considered romantic in our times, many are not practiced simply because they do not seem to fit in our modern world.

  The well known clichés that accompany a left over standard which may still apply to some, but is so absent in others can sometimes add more complication to dating, rather than making the process an easier one. Such ideas as women's secrets giving their sex an air of mystery or men always being the rougher, less refined half of the sexes, have all but dried up and blown away in the wind.

  In today's society one may find that the ideal woman or man changes from person to person and that to create a standard ideal for the masses is nearly impossible. No depiction in the media or social standard gives men or women an idea of what model they should follow in order to be considered attractive; while this release from obligatory self modeling may be helpful in some ways, many individuals feel lost without a standard to look to.

Along with the erased standards, many traditions of dating have also been scattered to the winds. Such niceties as holding a door or offering an arm may still be considered sweet by some, but may in fact bring out resentment in others. These ideas further apply to the growing idea that men are getting in touch with the softer and more complex emotions that they would previously have attempted to bottle up; men often find this confusing, especially when trying to figure out how sensitive a man should be in order to gain the interest of a woman.

Several years ago single men and women could count on meeting potential mates though work or mutual friends. But that was then and the dating environment has changed. Today, single men and women are busier than ever and they work longer hours, which means it's harder to meet Mr. or Ms. Right! But not to worry, the stigma of dating services and personal ads is basically prehistoric and there are plenty of options to help single people become couples. Today, online dating, speed dating, Lock N Key parties, "It's Just Lunch" and "Eight at Eight" are some of the most popular options to help singles navigate dating in a modern world. 

Let's face it we use the Internet for shopping, travel and work. Why not use the Internet for dating as well? Many online dating services provide potential matches based on religion, ethnic background, occupation and special interests.

Online dating is convenient, inexpensive and the only requirements are hope, luck and Internet connection! Online dating provides one fairly easy way to navigate a busy professional life and maintain a personal life. But be forewarned there is some work involved in identifying a perfect match online. Single hopefuls must peruse countless member profiles; make numerous cyber introductions and wait to see if interest is mutual. 

Meet Eligible Men - 11 ways and counting

Places to Meet Eligible Men become more and more scarce these days.  Heck, even eligible men as they are have become a rare species.

1. The bar

This may be one of the oldest ways to meet a man, but it still works. Free flowing beer makes it easier to approach your target! However, if ‘commitment’ is on your mind, then look elsewhere!

2. The market

Whether it’s the shopping mall or the supermarket these places are loaded up with good looking folks. Chances are you’ll find someone who lives in your neighbor and likes coffee the way you do. A bookstore is another place to meet someone with similar tastes – at least in literature!

3. Online

This is the latest method of meeting single men. There are several online dating sites where you can check out profiles and photographs. The best one I’ve heard of is www.LoveDiscovered.co.za, because they offer both free services and paid, as well as professional image consultants and physiologist advise. Although you’ll have to spend some money on membership its well worth it just on the advise you get. Online dating became a relatively safe method as you can get to know your date before you go out with him.

4. Church

Church is a good place to meet men who share the same faith and moral grounding. If you’re a single mom, this may be a good place to find serious men who are looking for a life partner rather than a night out on the town.

5. The water cooler

If you can get past the gossip, the office is a place where romance can be sparked. Being in such close proximity with colleagues can lead to an office romance. Finding someone of the same intellectual level may be easier at the workplace than at the bar!

6. Newspapers

Check out the newspapers for announcements regarding neighborhood picnics, square dances, tours and special events. These are great places to meet new people, especially single men! Go ahead strike up a conversation. You might end up meeting your spouse.

7. College …

If you’re taking some classes at the local college this could be an opportunity to meet eligible men There are seminars and short courses that you can participate in. Not only can you get an education but you can find that perfect someone perhaps sitting right next to you.

8. Friends

Get your friends to help if you’re serious about finding a man. Attend parties where there is a good mix of singles. Be friendly, outgoing and be seen! You can even throw a party yourself and tell friends to bring their friends along.

9. Gym

While you exercise your muscles you can exercise your heart as well. The gym is a great place to meet single men, specially the hot men! You’ll know in advance that they value their health and you know what to expect when thir expensive suit comes off, so that’s a good starting point!

10. Favorite diner or restaurant

Notice the guy who’s having dinner by himself at the far corner table? Well, what you waiting for? Get a waiter to introduce you or do it yourself. Either way, make a move.

11. Work

Either in your office or in the accounting on the 19th floor there must be that cute, nice, good-looking guy who makes your heart tick. Figure out where exactly he works, what’s his name, if he’s available, and let the flirting begin! Who knows, maybe the guy in the next cubicle is the one you were looking for all this time!

What does your Image say about you?

Image is the foundation of visual credibility, personal presence and non-verbal communications. Research has shown that when you project an image of confidence, you are more likely to succeed both professionally and socially.





Did you know that within 3 second of meeting you, your peers, co-workers, boss – everyone – have already determined 3 things about you:

1. Your socio-economic status
2. Your education level
3. Your desirability

Successful people believe their success is attributable to a pattern of mutually beneficial interpersonal relationships, as much as it is due to technical skills or business knowledge. Your communication and the image you present create the first impression - often the lasting impression - on the people you meet. Want a more professional image? How you present yourself is the first step in building that mutually beneficial network of contacts.

Studies by Dr. Albert Mehrabian at UCLA revealed that when we try to convey meaning through our communication with others, the majority of our message is communicated nonverbally and through voice and facial expression. Approximately seven percent of the message is communicated by words.
His studies revealed that up to 37% of a first impression is based upon the speaker's tone of voice. On the telephone, that number rises to 80% or higher, according to many communication consultants.

Improving your self-image, like improving any skill, takes time and practice. Developing good self-esteem involves encouraging a positive (but realistic) attitude toward yourself and the world around you and appreciating your worth, while at the same time behaving responsibly towards others. Self-esteem isn't self-absorption; it's self-respect.

By working from the inside out (focusing on changing your own way of thinking before changing the circumstances around you), you can build your self-esteem. The goal of this positive thinking is to give yourself a more positive self-concept, while seeing yourself honestly and accepting yourself, and removing the internal barriers that can keep you from doing your best. The consultants at Love Discovered will tailor make a session for you that ensure you get the maximum benefit in the least possible time. They are available on Skype so no need to travel to see them.

Not Marriage Material?

Contrary to the wisdom of pop songs, love is not enough to make a marriage work. Getting married means sharing your entire life with another person, so you want to make absolutely sure that he/she is someone you’ll be happy spending time with day in and day out. Keep an eye out for these warning signs that he/she will make a bad wife or husband and avoid committing to the wrong person.

Warning Signs

Your partner doesn’t want your friends around

A girl who disapproves of you hanging out with your friends will become a wife who doesn’t want you to have your own life outside of the marriage. Even if she’s not that fond of your buddies, she shouldn't stand in the way of you spending time with them on your own. Provided your friends aren’t convincing you to rob banks or some other objectionable behavior, she should trust you to make your own decisions about your friends. If she tries to restrict that now, it’ll only get worse after you say your vows.

She tries to change you

If your girlfriend is constantly nitpicking about your appearance, your behavior, your personality, your career path, your friends, and your habits, she is essentially telling you that you’re not good enough for her. Everyone can make improvements in their lives, and a good partner should help you become a better man, but if she’s forever on your case about changing one thing or another, she’s going to make a bad wife.

You also have to decide whether or not the things she’s asking you to change are reasonable or out of the question. Can you give up your vision of a loft downtown for her desire for a house in the suburbs? What if you’ve always wanted to be a father and she is dead-set against having children? Ask yourself how much you’re willing to give up to please her.

Libra Love secrets...

In the first of our Love Horoscope articles we take a look at Libra


Naturally romantic, Libra considers sex a way to express their love for another. Libra doesn’t like too much coarseness or vulgarity when they become intimately involved. 

However, reluctance to assert themselves may mean others don't take their sexual and emotional needs seriously. Libra can talk themselves into bed and then out the other side. So if the temperature's rising and they're still chatting, moisten their lips with yours and give them something else to chew on. 

Libra can alternate between active and passive so best to take the initiative; start the blood pumping by kissing and caressing their back, working your way down the spine from the nape of the neck to the bottom, dwelling on area of the lower back.



How to score with a Libran: Libra is a sucker for flattery but be subtle, dress well, send flowers, ask   their opinion and use silk sheets and soft lacy pillows.

Ideal date: Start with the opera or classical concert followed by a candlelit diner and then back home for some afters.